DV-120, Item 04: Stay Away Orders
1. Introduction
Plaintiff requests (DV-100, Request for Order, filed 16 September 2005,
served 04 March 2006,
page 2, Item 6, Stay Away Orders) that defendant
stay at least one hundred yards away from plaintiff, plaintiff's home,
plaintiff's job or workplace, and plaintiff's vehicle.
Defendant has never, in the past fifteen years, seen plaintiff in person.
Defendant barely remembers what plaintiff looks like. Defendant has no
pictures of plaintiff.
Defendant observes that defendant has never come within 100 yards of
plaintiff's house for the past fifteen years, except to deliver occasional
notes, requesting information, which were non-threatening in nature - which
is a matter of record.
Defendant admits that defendant does pass by regularly, on Geary Boulevard,
a major thoroughfare in San Francisco, half a block away from plaintiff's
house.
Defendant notes that he has no idea where plaintiff works, or if plaintiff
is even employed, particularly after 15 years of separation.
Defendant has never touched the plaintiff's vehicle at any time, and plaintiff
makes no allegations to the contrary.
2. Psychosis
Defendant observes that there is no testimony or evidence from anyone alleging
otherwise, except from the plaintiff. Plaintiff has offered no evidence to
corroborate plaintiff's accusations.
Plaintiff has only offered perceptions, which are subjective, and subject to
question.
Defendant observes that the Court's reluctance to question cases which are so
largely based on perception, actually contributes to the problem of domestic
violence, by turning a blind eye towards fraud and misrepresentation - which
only aggravates and perpetuates the existing conflict.
Defendant observes that plaintiff is not telepathic, and does not have the
ability to directly perceive defendant's thoughts.
Defendant observes that motive exists for plaintiff to lie, including
animosity towards defendant, on the part of plaintiff, subsequent to
plaintiff's abortion, several years before the events which led to the
original request for a temporary restraining order, occurred. This was
diagnosed, at the time, as borderline psychosis.
Plaintiff is a former mental patient whom ceased taking plaintiff's
prescribed medications - including Prozac - and withdrew from psychiatric
therapy shortly before the events which led to the original request for a
temporary restraining order, occurred.
Defendant suggests that plaintiff may not be a reliable source of information.
(Exhibit 1,
1981 Physicians' Desk Reference, page 3, bookmark in plaintiff's
handwriting)
3. Fraud
Based on information and belief, defendant believes that plaintiff has
continuously lived in a flat above plaintiff's parents and other family
members for the past 15 years.
Defendant observes that the total lack of supporting testimony from
plaintiff's own family members, or any other third parties intimately
acquainted with the history of this disagreement, provides independent
affirmation that there is no threat to the plaintiff.
Defendant notes
(
Defendant's Exhibit 2, Declaration of Richard Toshiyuki Drury, page 3,
lines 9 - 11) that names of other family members were explicitly
removed from the original request for a temporary restraining order, in
1993, and are not mentioned in any of plaintiff's subsequent filings.
Based on information and belief, defendant believes that this indicates an
ongoing refusal on the part of plaintiff's family members to participate in
a fraud.
Plaintiff alleges (DV-100, Request for Order, filed 16 September 2005, served 04 March 2006,
Declaration of Helen Wong, page 9, line 3) that
plaintiff "left a note in a sealed envelope for Defendant".
Defendant denies ever seeing such an envelope.
Plaintiff affirms (DV-100, Request for Order, filed 16 September 2005,
served 04 March 2006,
Declaration of Helen Wong, page 9, line 7) that
plaintiff does "not believe" defendant read the note.
Defendant observes that plaintiff never delivered the note, preferring to
leave the note in a place where plaintiff could then object to defendant's
having trespassed in order to retrieve the note ... which letter defendant
did not even know existed.
Defendant observes that, given the plaintiff's request that defendant stay
100 yards away from plaintiff, that this aforementioned behavior is closer
to being a classical example of dual-bind schizophrenic behavior than it is
a serious indicator of a legitimate concern about physical safety.
Defendant observes that if plaintiff was sincere in plaintiff's concern for
plaintiff's safety that plaintiff would have asked plaintiff for an address,
and mailed this alleged note to the address that defendant would have
provided plaintiff with, requesting a reply - instead of leaving the alleged
note, unannounced, on plaintiff's 'shelf'.
Defendant points out that defendant provided plaintiff with a mailing
address as early as 05 August 2005 (DV-100, Request for Order, filed 16
September 2005, served 04 March 2006,
Declaration of Helen Wong, page 29,
labeled "8/5/05 NOTE" - address has been redacted), and that plaintiff
could have communicated plaintiff's concerns at any time after that date,
in writing, directly, without convoluted mechanisms.
Defendant observes that by plaintiff's allegedly leaving a letter on
plaintiff's 'shelf' - where it would certainly be invisible to all but
someone who had been invited to come and pick it up - plaintiff was placed
in a position of having to trespass in order to even see if such a
hypothetical message, which defendant had no reason to even expect would
be waiting, existed.
Defendant suggests that such a story is absurd.
Defendant observes that this sequence of events, attested to by the
plaintiff, is more of an indicator of mental incapacity on the part of
the plaintiff, than it is an indicator of malicious conduct on the part
of the defendant.
4. Scrupulous Compliance
Defendant observes that defendant has scrupulously complied with the
restraining orders, issued 22 January 1993 and 18 February 1993. Plaintiff
has never alleged otherwise.
Defendant observes that plaintiff has not made any good faith effort to
communicate plaintiff's concerns about defendant's conduct directly to
the defendant.
Defendant observes that if plaintiff was sincere in plaintiff's concern
for plaintiff's safety that plaintiff would have asked plaintiff for an
address, and mailed this alleged note to the address that defendant would
have provided her with, requesting a reply - instead of leaving the alleged
note, unannounced, on plaintiff's 'shelf'.
Defendant points out that defendant provided plaintiff with a mailing address
as early as 05 August 2005 (DV-100, Request for Order, filed 16 September
2005, served 04 March 2006,
Declaration of Helen Wong, page 29, labeled
"8/5/05 NOTE" - address has been redacted), and that plaintiff could have
communicated her concerns at any time after that date, in writing, directly,
without convoluted mechanisms.
Defendant observes that by plaintiff's allegedly leaving a letter on her
'shelf' - where it would certainly be invisible to all but someone who had
been invited to come and pick it up - plaintiff was placed in a position of
having to trespass in order to even see if such a hypothetical message,
which had no reason to even expect would be waiting, existed.
Defendant suggests that such a story is absurd.
Defendant observes that as a result of plaintiff's inability or failure to
affirmatively communicate, in writing, plaintiff's dissatisfaction with
defendant's conduct, that defendant has been misled into interpreting
plaintiff's response to defendant's communications, as neutral.
Based on information and belief, defendant now believes that this was an
intentional act of sabotage by the plaintiff, in order to fraudulently
elicit the behavior that plaintiff required in order to substantiate
plaintiff's allegations in court.
5. Responsibility.
Defendant observes that defendant is also unable to read minds.
Defendant observes that all of his communications have been in writing
explicitly so that defendant could demonstrate to all interested parties
that defendant's conduct has been consistently civil and law-abiding.
Defendant observes that defendant would have to be mentally defective to
threaten plaintiff in writing, given plaintiff's history of emotional and
mental illness, as well as plaintiff's history of making false accusations
of domestic violence.
Defendant suggests that plaintiff is exaggerating plaintiff's emotional
distress in order to avoid being held responsible for the inevitable
consequences of plaintiff's previous false accusation of domestic violence -
which included, and continues to include, defendant's loss of relationships
with defendant's family, defendant's loss of relationships with defendant's
friends, defendant's loss of employment, and defendant's loss of employment
opportunities.
Defendant observes that writing was invented several thousand years ago
precisely for those situations where one of the correspondents was unable
or unwilling to be present at the time that the other correspondent received
the first party's communiqué.
Based on information and belief, defendant believes that dialogue evolved in
response to the need for people to ascertain one another's thoughts, and share
information.
Defendant observes that plaintiff has refused to communicate in writing and
refused to participate in the most rudimentary sort of dialogue, on any sort
of topic.
Defendant asks the Court to contemplate a situation where a patient refused
to discuss the one thing that made that patient most ill, with the person
that the patient (right or wrong) blamed most.
Defendant asks the Court: would this not be a medically pathological state
of affairs?
Defendant asks the Court: how is defendant supposed to make amends for his
alleged wrongdoings if he cannot even ask what went wrong ... or if everything
is now better?
Based on information and belief, defendant believes that this is a medical
matter, not a legal matter, and that defendant's conduct should not be a
matter for legal dispute.
Defendant thinks that rubber-stamping uncorroborated requests for restraining
orders only guarantees the perpetuation of injustice.
Defendant asks, yet again, that the Court refer this to mediation, and request
that the two parties seek a mutually acceptable reconciliation to the state of
affairs that exists.
6. Conclusion.
Defendant has never, in the past fifteen years, seen plaintiff in person.
Defendant barely remembers what plaintiff looks like. Defendant has no
pictures of plaintiff.
Defendant observes that defendant has never come within 100 yards of
plaintiff's house for the past fifteen years, except to deliver occasional
notes, requesting information, which were non-threatening in nature - which
is a matter of record.
Defendant thinks that plaintiff should assume responsibility for plaintiff's
own internal states of being, instead of attempting to control external
agencies.
Defendant suggests that if plaintiff's feelings are overwhelming, that
plaintiff should be seeking mediation, reconciliation and psychological
counsel - not legal counsel.